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When we had our first child, we treated him with affection and common sense. Now, thanks to Dr. and Mrs. Sears, this has a name: Attachment Parenting.

Affection could no more spoil a child, than the sun could be put out by a bucket of gasoline.
--L. Ron Hubbard

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The Difference Between "Attachment Therapy" and "Attachment Parenting."

An article in a recent paper mentioned something called "Attachment Therapy". Which is not to be confused with Attachment Parenting.

"Attachment Therapy" is used by psychologists to treat what they call "attachment disorder". It's not based on any studies, and to anyone witnessing the "therapy" it actually looks extremely abusive.

It is a new practice, and something that goes against the grain of natural parenting.

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Attachment Parenting means different things to different people.
 
For me, attachment parenting means, simply, allowing one's child to determine how much love and affection he or she needs.

When the baby is very young, this means cuddling him when he needs comforts. Hugs and kisses and cuddles. Lots of it. Feeding the baby when he is hungry. Not making him go hungry because of some doctor's idea of what a "schedule" should be for a baby. Rocking him to sleep. Comforting him when he has a bad dream. Singing to him. Playing with him. Breastfeeding him until he's ready to wean. Not making him sleep by himself in the dark.
 
Many societies practice "attachment parenting" as a normal way of parenting. Western society has moved away from this. I believe the reason for this change is historical - the wealthy landowners had nannies sleep in the children's rooms away from the parents. So when the middle class rose up out of the middle ages, they wanted to be like the lords and ladies of the manor - and put their children in separate rooms at night.
 
This is not the norm for much of the world. In most places, parents sleep near their children.
 
Along with putting our babies in separate rooms, bottlefeeding has become popular. And with this, a sort of toughness in one's attitude towards their children.
 
Mommies go to work, quite often, and the baby is left with a sitter.
 
Kids are sent to government school at the age of 4 or 5 or 6.
 
It's a cold world for children these days.
 
Attachment parenting is a way of making the world more gentle, and allowing for a more gradual transition towards independence.
 
And children raised this way are not "needy" or "clingy". On the contrary, my own children, and most children I know who were raised in attachment parenting households, are very independent, secure children!
 

April 26 Children who are so shy or so attached to their parents that they are afraid to go to school or sleep alone do much better when given a psychiatric drug, according to a major study with profound and controversial ramifications for millions of children.

Solvay Pharmaceuticals, makers of Luvox, is directly attacking attachment parenting practices, most particularly, co-sleeping.

In an attempt to sell more of the psychotropic drug, they are targeting children who arent comfortable sleeping alone as a new source of revenue.

Their "diagnosis" for children who want to sleep with mom and dad is:

"Extreme separation anxiety disorder, he said, would be displayed in a child who avoided birthday parties and sleepovers. A medium-grade example would be children who refused to sleep in their own rooms and wanted to get into bed with their parents."

Their cure of course, is to drug the children.

This presents us with several terrifying possibilities:

1.) parents who co-sleep can be found guilty of medical neglect for not medicating their mentally ill child who is suffering from separation anxiety. The punishment for medical neglect can include imprisonment and, of course, the loss of parental rights.

2.) The message that social anxiety is easily cured with drugs is all too clear.

3.) We cant forget that one of the side effects of Luvox is suicidal and homicidal ideation. How many more Columbine-type tragedies should we put up with before putting our foot down? (Yes, one of the Columbine killers was on Luvox.)

4.) The message is loud and clear: The family bed is for mentally ill people.

5.) What will they diagnose as a mental illness in children next? Will kids who suck their thumbs be singled out as mentally ill? Or kids who aren't potty trained by the age of 2? Or babies who want to nurse more than 12 months? Considering that Prozac has been manufactured in liquid form for use by babies 6 months old I wouldnt put anything past these drug companies and the FDA.

Enough is enough! If you are concerned about this issue too, please e-mail and I will send you some links.

An adult has certain rights around children which the children and modern adults rather tend to ignore. A good, stable adult with love and tolerance in his heart is about the best therapy a child can have.

The main consideration in raising children is the problem of training them without breaking them. You want to raise your child in such a way that you don’t have to control him, so that he will be in full possession of himself at all times. Upon that depends his good behavior, his health, his sanity.

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...Raising children should be a joy. And can be. In fact, it can be one of the most rewarding of all human experiences. The application of Scientology principles to the bringing up of children can ensure that they are happy, loving and productive, and that they become valued members of the societies in which they live.

How to Live with Children

To read more about how Scientologists raise their children:

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Resources for keeping your child off psychiatric drugs

Alternative Mental Health - help without psychotropic drugs

Citizens Commission on Human Rights - find out what you can do to help stop the mass drugging of children.

Fight for Kids - how to keep the system from drugging your child

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I receive wonderful "Tips for Success". This is a newsletter from Tips for Success. You can receive these tips for success by signing up for their newsletter. I will post links some of my favorite tips.

Reduce Anxiety
How to Reduce Anxiety
There has never been a better time for worry. We have problems everywhere with the Iraqi war, potential terrorism and an unstable economy.

Success
The Road to Success is in the Fast Lane
You succeed based on the quality of your work, the amount of work we can do and one other factor: speed. How fast can you go?

Solve Money Problems
How to Solve Money Problems
How do you solve money problems?

Power
Orderly Progress = Power
Many of those who wish to succeed find relief and an improved attitude from this quote:

How to Get along with your Spouse
How to Get Along with Your Spouse and Others
When your spouse does something wrong, how do you react?

Success, not Excuses
The Benefits of Being Unreasonable
You succeed when you are unreasonable. You neither give nor accept excuses. You insist on success.

Professionalism
Are You a Professional?
How you look, talk, write, act and work determines whether you are a professional or an amateur. Society does not emphasize the importance of professionalism, so people tend to believe that amateur work is normal.

Honest Way to Get Rich
The Honest Way to Get Rich
You can get everything you want in life as long as you give others enough of what they want. If you give nothing of value, you get nothing of value. Your method of exchange determines your wealth.

Jealousy
How to Kill the Green-eyed Monster
Nothing can ruin a relationship or marriage faster than jealously. Jealousy creates anxiety, anger, loneliness, hate, fear. No one thinks clearly when jealous.

Having a relationship with a jealous person is tough. The jealous person acts untrusting or unworthy. Jealousy makes the person unattractive, even repulsive.

No one wants a jealous mate and no one likes being jealous. So what causes jealousy?

Communication
When in Doubt, Communicate!
You may remember being told as a child, "Keep quiet!" "Children should be seen, not heard," and "You talk too much." You were a "good" kid if you kept quiet. However, being quiet when you are little causes big problems later in life.

As an adult, you may have been punished for communicating.

Being Serious
Being Too Serious Can Drive You Crazy
Are you having fun? Do you get a thrill from your work? Do you enjoy waking up each morning?

Certain myths about work can pull you down. "Work is not supposed to be fun." "You must buckle down and get serious."

Perhaps the biggest myth of all: "People will think I’m important if I act seriously." Yet getting serious creates problems: stress, worry, anxiety, emotional pain, drudgery and failure.

How to Make Yourself Happier

Goals and Happiness
Goals and Happiness
What makes you happier than anything else you do? Where does real contentment come from?

If you understand and apply the following definition of happiness, you also open the door to unlimited success for yourself, your family and your group.

The benefits of a challenge.

How to Reduce Anxiety
How to Reduce Anxiety
There has never been a better time for worry. We have problems everywhere with the Iraqi war, potential terrorism and an unstable economy.

According to the news, we are seeing more businesses closing down, more home foreclosures and more people going broke. They say we have less confidence and greater anxiety.

Add in work problems or marriage problems and you get ANXIETY

attitude about life
"The Whole World Stinks!"
While Grandpa is taking a nap on the couch, his seven-year-old grandson gets some Limburger cheese from the refrigerator and smears it on Grandpa’s mustache.

When grandpa wakes up, he says, "This room stinks!" He goes to another room and says, "This room stinks." After walking throughout the house, he says, "The whole house stinks!"

Grandpa goes outside and takes a deep breath and says, "The whole world stinks!"

Your attitude about life does the same thing.

How to Handle Difficult People
How to Handle Difficult People
A bully at your work is difficult for you to face. He is demanding you do part of his job without pay or credit. How do you handle it?

Your neighbors are constantly fighting. They wake you up in the middle of the night with their screams and curses. What do you say to them?

Your father is unhappy about your career choice. He constantly criticizes your work and points out what he thinks you should do. How do you deal with him?

Difficult situations are part of everyone’s life. Employers and employees can’t get along. Partners clash over money. Spouses cannot resolve disagreements.

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